Love you

Love you

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”

– John Lennon –

So it’s been quite a while since I wrote my last blog post. Over 4 months in fact. The last post being 30 March earlier this year. Quite a long hiatus. As I have mentioned before,  I only ever write my blog when I feel to. Sometimes I have months and months where I will write a post every day, sometimes more than 1, other times I don’t feel to write a post for months and months, hence the break.

I think its so important to only share a post when you have something worth sharing. In fact more importantly, something you feel to share.

I have had a pretty interesting last few months and there are so many things I have learnt, however, for some reason, I haven’t felt to share them through my blog for some reason.

However, I was just in a Transcendental Meditation and something came to me that I really wanted to share with you. The importance of loving oneself. 

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I have just come back from a long overdue trip back home to the Motherland of England. I hadn’t been home for nearly 2 and a half years, and it was very much needed. I was there for nearly a month and it was an incredibly wonderful, fun, exciting, happy, special and healing trip.

While I was there I spent some time with a friend who shared some news with me about a family member of theirs who passed quite suddenly some years ago. I of course felt incredible compassion for them while they were telling me this story, especially because of how close they were to this family member, and how dearly they loved them. They also told me of the feelings that they went through as a result of losing such a loved one, and the things they have learnt about that loss since.

Interestingly, after they had shared this news with me, it brought up a memory of my gran from when she was still alive.

My gran suffered from senile dementia for quite a while, years and years in fact and towards the end of her life, she spent her remaining days, weeks, months and years in a home. I lose track of time, but at some point she got pneumonia and was hospitalised. I can remember going to visit her in hospital and it was at this point in her journey that she started to lose the power of speech.

I remember it being very strange talking to her, and her not being able to really respond. If I said something to her, she would just make a sort of monotone sound for what seemed like a while, which would culminate in her uttering two words. Always. It didn’t matter what I said, or what I asked, there were only two words that she could utter. And it was these two words, that would be the last two words that I would ever hear her say.

Love you. 

At the time, I was touched by how simple a sentiment it was. My heart was warmed by the fact that all she wanted to say to us was ‘Love you’, assuming that the I was missing. And it was only when I was recounting this story to my beautiful friend just a few weeks ago, did I realise the profundity of the fact that these were the final two words left in her vocabulary, because really, these are the only two words we really need. In fact, even if we were to reduce it to one, the only word we really ever need is love.

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As I was telling him this story, he was reduced to tears and it was in this moment that I was reminded of what a beautiful, kind, loving, heart-centered soul my gran was. So gentle, so sweet, so lovely. And even though, at the time, I was so very sad that she was losing her power of speech, when I reflect back on that time, everything about that moment was absolutely perfect.

And even as I reflect back now, on telling my friend this story, I can go one level deeper with my understanding of the importance of these final two words that she had for me. At the time, I thought she was expressing her love for me, which is probably how most of us, most of the time would interpret the sentiment ‘love you’. What I now realise is that she was giving me the most important piece of advice that anyone could ever give me. Love you. Love me. 

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And that is the sentiment of my blog post today. We must love ourselves before we can give love to anyone else or attract it for that matter. We must find love inside, before looking for it elsewhere. In fact, it is in the very act of giving love to ourselves that we will find it in others and see it reflected most beautifully back at us through them.

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Every year, I set an intention. Last year my intention was to improve my relationship with money, and boy did I learn that one. This year, my intention has been to understand and experience unconditional love. Unconditionally love for myself and in achieving this, by definition, being able to give unconditional love to others, as we are all one. I have been on a quest to absorb, learn and envelop all knowledge, wisdom and advice on love, living from the heart etc. I’ve read book after book, done heart opening meditation after heart opening meditation, practised yoga religiously, done numerous kundalini yoga classes and all sorts of healing work to bring me out of my head and down into my heart, the list goes on . . . but essentially, the key to experiencing unconditional love it seems, is very simple. And that is to love yourself, unconditionally. To Love You. 

So, my question for you today is, how are you going with loving you? How loving are you with your thoughts about yourself? How loving are you with your words to yourself? And how loving are you to others, because, after all, we’re all one. They are you, you are they. And if the answer to any of these questions is ‘not very’ how can you be kinder, sweeter, nicer, and lovelier with the words that you think and say to yourself and to others? How can you Love You more?

Sending you lots of love, hugs and light x x x

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Let go of yesterday

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‘Close your eyes, clear your heart, let it go.’

– Anon –

Yesterday ended in a slightly wobbly way for me, and in waking this morning I asked the Universe ‘How I can let go and move forwards positively?’.

The answer came in the form of a beautiful meditation that showed up in my inbox by the very beautiful Luminita (aka The Purpose Fairy). It is one of the most wonderful guided meditations I have listened to in a long time, so I wanted to share it with you all.

 

If there is anything that happened yesterday that is even slightly unsatisfactory, this is the perfect meditation to help you let go of it, so you can enjoy today in a peaceful, calm and harmonious way.

Enjoy!

Sending you love, hugs and light,

Kat x x x

Learn more

Visit The Purpose Fairy website

The future is all-inclusive consciousness

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“An experience of absolute inclusiveness has to happen to humanity and it is possible.”

– Sadhguru –

I’ve just watched a fantastic TED talk by Sadhguru on all-inclusive consciousness and I wanted to share it with you, because not only do I concur with everything that he says, but it reminded me of an experience that I had recently.

I didn’t end up sitting on a rock meditating for several days, without realising the passing of time, but I did experience some pretty profound feelings that I had never felt before.

As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, I have been going through some pretty interesting spiritual realisations over the last 8 months, and one day a couple of months ago, I decided to take a rest from the work that I was doing and skip down to the waters edge.

I live about a 2 minute walk from the beach in Manly, and in particular we live very close to a coastal path walk where there are a lot of trees, grass, rocks etc. So I took a walk along the coast and as I was walking down a grassy hill towards the rocks and the water I felt an incredibly strong sense of love for all that was around me. I felt so connected with everything. I hugged trees, knowing that they were me. I stroke the grass, knowing that every blade of grass was me, and as I got down to the waters edge I crouched down on the rocks looking at every tiny barnacle underneath me, knowing that they were me. And as I put my hand into the water I felt the most profound and incredibly deep connection with the ocean, knowing that the ocean was I, and I was the ocean was I. And as I did this I started to cry.

The tears flowed and flowed. I was overwhelmed by the enormity of what I was feeling and knowing. And all I could do was keep apologising to the ocean, on behalf of every other person on the planet (who are also me) for not having treated it well enough. For not being loving enough to it. At the same time, knowing that as much as I was apologising to the ocean, I was also apologising to myself, because we were, and are, one and the same.

Sadhguru’s TED talk, spoke to me on so many levels, it is a confluence of everything that I know to be true about myself and the Universe and it is such a wonderful articulation of something that once every human being on the planet understands will transform our lives, our experiences and our realities in ways we could never have imagined possible.

And I also know, that as I continue to expand my consciousness and connect more deeply with my inner world, it will be reflected back to me in my external world in the most beautiful, loving, compassionate and empathetic ways possible.

And so, as Sadhguru asks in his TED talk I will leave you with one simple question to ask yourself. How inclusive is your experience of life?

Sending you lots of love, hugs and light,

Kat x x x

Learn more

Visit Sadhguru’s website

Love TED talks? View more of my blog posts that include them.

Image gratitude – http://www.flickr.com/photos/cybergabi/5136816815/

Create space

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“Make the space in your body. The universe will fill it. It always does.”

Leslie Kaminoff

Following on from my blog post Let Go (Part 2), I wanted to write a post about the importance of creating space and how yoga and meditation can help you with this.

It’s amazing how much stuff we hold on to subconsciously. How many emotions, how many thoughts and feelings about things in the past that we can’t change and perhaps aren’t supportive to us in the present moment.

When we choose to let go and submit ourselves to what is, in the now, we create space for wonderful new things to come into our lives. The new may come in the form of a person, a place, a job, a hobby or an experience.

For example, it’s no coincidence whatsoever that I recently decided to let go of a person called Robert in my life that was no longer playing a positive role, and out of the blue yesterday, I met the most beautiful person in my Yoga Practice in Venice Beach called, what for it . . . Robert. I am certain that we will both play an important role in one another’s lives, no matter how big or small.

Furthermore, it is absolutely no coincidence whatsoever that I met this beautiful person, at the end of a wonderfully peaceful and relaxing yoga practice, after having come out of the most amazing savasana that had brought me to tears of joy, because of the love that I felt in my heart for some of the most important people in my life.

It felt that my heart was full to bursting with love for my beautiful parents, my lovely little sister and her husband, and my darling boyfriend Darren.

I know for sure that in that one 90 minute yoga practice I created so much space for love in my life, and I’m certain that during that time I was letting go of and processing things that no longer served me.

So my question for you today is this, how can you create more space in your life? Is it through doing some yoga or meditation? Or perhaps it might be having a clean and tidy of your living space? Perhaps you need to decide to let go of someone in your life who is no longer serving a positive purpose. Or maybe you need to let go of a grudge or a bad feeling about something or someone? Perhaps through just writing an email or making a phone call to apologise might make life a little bit easier, and create some space for more positive things to happen. Whatever you choose, know that it is perfect, right now.

If you did want to dip your toes into the magical world of meditation you might like to take part in Oprah and Deepak’s 21 day meditation challenge.

Sending you lots of love, hugs and light,

Kat x x x

Learn more

The Universe Wants to Fill You (Literally) – mindfulmo.com

8 ways to make space in your life – mindbodygreen,com

Make your space sacred – life.gaiam.com