Yesterday ended in a slightly wobbly way for me, and in waking this morning I asked the Universe ‘How I can let go and move forwards positively?’.
The answer came in the form of a beautiful meditation that showed up in my inbox by the very beautiful Luminita (aka The Purpose Fairy). It is one of the most wonderful guided meditations I have listened to in a long time, so I wanted to share it with you all.
If there is anything that happened yesterday that is even slightly unsatisfactory, this is the perfect meditation to help you let go of it, so you can enjoy today in a peaceful, calm and harmonious way.
“Have no fear of perfection – you’ll never reach it.”
– Salvidor Dali –
I had a very beautiful chat with a wonderful new friend of mine today about life, spirituality, philosophy and all things metaphysical. In amongst that we talked about the importance of doing what you loved and I mentioned how much I love writing my blog.
He responded by saying that he would love to write a blog, but that he overthinks and rewrites a blog post 20 times and can take an entire day to get something out, and wishes that he wasn’t so much of a perfectionist.
I laughed and said that since writing my blog, and having written over 120 blog posts since March, I have worked through my previous issues with perfectionism in that I can write, edit and put out a 500 word blog post in about 20 minutes. Sometimes less. The only way I have got to that is by letting go of what I think I should write, or what I think people want to read, and rather just write intuitively. I have also worried less about proofreading everything to heck. Knowing full well that I will be forgiven by my beautiful readers if there is a small typo or spelling mistake and that it’s OK if I use its when I should have used it’s. Because really, it’s the content of what I’m saying that matters, rather than the accuracy of it.
Interestingly, I have just made a mistake, by putting a link to the wrong video in my blog. Now for those people who will be heading directly to my blog, that doesn’t matter, because I have rectified this and they will see the correct video there.
However, for those of you beautiful people who receive my blog directly to your inbox, you will have noticed that the video that I embedded in the post is not that of the Graduation Speech made by Mr Tim Minchin, but actually a video created by a girl who used it to quit a job that she wasn’t that bothered about any more.
So I thought I would write a blog post on this, and highlight the fact that, it’s OK to make mistakes. People won’t think any less of you. Everything happens for a reason and things can be righted as quickly as they were wronged.
And the best advice of all? Worry less about things be perfect and just be. If you make a mistake, it’s OK. If something you do isn’t perfect, it’s OK. At least you did it!
If I hadn’t started writing my blog just because I was worried about making mistakes or it not being perfect, I would never have put the 120 odd blog posts that I have put out there into the Universe. It’s all good.
“Do not chase people. Work hard and be you. The right people who belong in your life with come find you and stay. Do your thing.”
– Anonymous –
A couple of weeks ago Darren and I went for a bush walk and we came across a Lyre bird. They are very beautiful, and also have a very unique talent. They have the ability to imitate any kind of bird in order to attract a mate.
I then stumbled across this great video on You Tube by David Attenborough talking about the Lyre bird, so you can see it in action. You can hear it imitating a digital camera, car alarm and electric saw.
And it got me thinking about life. While I think the Lyre bird is super cool, and as the saying goes ‘imitation is the greatest form of flattery’, I feel it would be much better if they attracted other birds to them, based on the uniqueness of their own song.
And it’s the same thing in life. We spend so much time worrying about what others think of us. We change the way we think and feel, the things we say, the way we dress, just to fit in. When in actual fact if we were just ourselves, if we were just truthful, honest and authentic, we would attract people to us for who we really are, rather than a version of ourselves.
I have spent the last few years really connecting with my true, authentic self. Letting go of all of the worries, nervousness and doubt about what people would think about me, if I was to actually be myself, and it feels amazing. I feel as though I am the truest I have ever been.
I don’t really wear any make up any more and people are always telling me how good I look. I don’t tend to wear heels either. I’ve never liked them, they’re uncomfortable and my feet feel happier in flats or a slight heel. I dress exactly how I like, rather than how I think I should and people are always complimenting me on my brightly coloured jeans or tweed jacket. I have left the corporate world and set up a business doing exactly what I love. And I am writing a blog about all of the amazing learning’s I am gathering through life.
I’ve let go. I’ve let go of all of the should’s and I have decided just to be. To sing my own song, rather than copying everyone else’s and it feels amazing.
So the question is, are you singing your own song? And if not, what can you let go of, in order to find your own voice, your own style, your own look, in order to be your true, authentic self.
What if it didn’t matter what you looked like, what you did for a living, what your hobbies were, what other people thought of you? Imagine that everyone in the world loved you for exactly who you were, rather than who you thought you should be?
“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on”
– Eckhart Tolle –
When thinking about what to write for my blog, there were so many subjects that came to mind today. This one, however, rose to the surface.
We spend so much time in our heads, clinging on to the past, things that we’ve accumulated and friends that we perhaps don’t resonate with anymore. And we spend so much energy worrying about the future, what might be, what could be, that we forget to live in the now, and appreciate what is.
Considering it is Easter weekend and Spring is upon us (well in my head anyway – despite that it is in actual fact Autumn as I now live in Australia), therefore a bit of Spring cleaning is in order.
I have a beautiful Willow dress that I bought last year for $450, which I am going to sell. When I bought it, I was in love with it, the colour especially. My favourite, a deep and beautiful violet. The cut is amazing too, very unique and very flattering. Whenever I wear it, people comment on how beautiful it is, but, I haven’t worn it in over 9 months. So, it can’t be that special or important, can it? More importantly, if I sold the dress, I could do something much worthwhile with the money right now, and spend it on something that is more important to me. Such as a fantastic retreat in the Hunter Valley which will broaden my mind and enrich my soul.
I have also come to realise, that it is not the things in my life that I surround myself with that bring me happiness and joy, but the stuff inside me. And this realisation makes it so much easier to let go. Because I’m with me, all the time, wherever I go. And as long as I’m there, in the moment, I’ll be happy.
Sometimes you need to let go of everything, to realise how little you really need.
So, the question is, what do you need to let go of that you no longer need?
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